This morning I was sitting outside of the courtroom next to a man and woman who were waiting to be officially divorced by the Judge. I knew this because their conversation clearly discussed exchanges and transactions associated with divorce (e.g. visit to Secretary of State to transfer title of vehicles and discussions about parenting time exchanges and their children). However, had I not heard the actual details of the conversation and only focused on the tone, non-verbal communication, and facial expressions of the people, I would have thought they were best friends discussing their latest adventures in life together. The amount of respect these individuals had for one another was fascinating and refreshing. I knew right away the couple had to have utilized the collaborative practice for their divorce, or at least mediation.
Sure enough, once in the courtroom, it was made clear to me that they did in fact utilize collaborative divorce attorneys and, based on what I observed, their children’s future is in good hands even with separated parents. The power of collaborating through your divorce process never ceases to amaze me when you observe the benefits firsthand. These individuals committed to a process that focused on quality solutions. They were able to resolve issues with one another in a manner that did not damage their children. It’s amazing to think about the future you can create for your family when respect and honesty are at the forefront of a process and parties are able to directly participate in finding solutions. The process is still likely to involve intense discussions and disagreements; however, when emotions are navigated through a calm and honest atmosphere, solutions can be found and relationships can be restructured and repaired. Had the parties immediately resorted to filing motions and planning attacks against one another in the courtroom when divorce discussions got hard, I’m sure I would have been listening to a much different conversation in the court hallway this morning.
If you are considering divorce and think the collaborative practice might be a good option for your family, please do not hesitate to contact me for more information. Educate yourself on the different methods for handling a divorce and if it is at all possible to salvage respect with your spouse and protect your children from the often damaging effects of divorce, you should at least find out more.
Pospiech Family Law & Mediation, PLLC is focused on finding resolutions that help your family move forward. Attorney Jessica L. Pospiech provides a calming influence and gives her clients the care and attention that is so necessary for families facing difficult and emotional circumstances. Ms. Pospiech ensures that she is readily available for her clients’ questions and concerns. Please do not hesitate to reach out.
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